Communication is the whole embodiment of
what relationship is all about. (Click here
and tweet this). Human beings by nature express my ninth commandment of
relationship without necessarily voicing anything out. We gesture, blink,
facially express ourselves, point fingers here and there all in the name of
communication. These are some of the means by which the everyday person
communicates. “Communicare” in Latin is translated as communication in English.
It means to impart, share, or to make common. To make “common” as per with the
definition (in the sense of being equal) resonates with ethos of what a
relationship is all about.
This
art of the human expression is as old as the ancient. However, a misapplication
of one’s communicative ability only leads to a misunderstanding with the final
result being disaster. (Click here and
tweet this). When the devil intentionally miscommunicated God’s instruction regarding
the eating of the fruit to Adam and Eve, they misapplied it and brought about
their own downfall. I am hoping that we all will learn to communicate as God
does. He doesn’t communicate until all the matters at hand have well been assessed-
it took the hovering of the surface of the deep before God could speak the
creative word for things to come into being.
Dr
Emerson Eggerichs in his book “Love and respect”, lays emphasis on why men need
to be respected and women to be loved. I see it more as a communicational doing
rather than just a thoughtful aspect. If you respect someone you will love them
and vice versa. We should endeavour to
carry this attitude into our daily endeavours. We can express love and respect
through communicating it. We should endeavour to really understand what communication
means to people we relate to. Be it through a gesture, a facial expression etc.
The reason why I didn’t limit myself to “talking” as the only way to
communicate is because it only represents one part of what it’s all about. The essence of a successful relationship is
seen when the people involve truly understand each other’s communication lines.
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It’s
said the scarcest commodity in the 21st century will be human
attention. Twitter, Facebook, IMessage, Tango etc. are all tools of
communication and don’t honestly represent the true essence of what it is. Your ability to dialogue even when you don’t
feel like creates an avenue for all others to express their fears, anxieties,
beliefs and their strengths. (Click here
and tweet this). Communicating with each other becomes a healing process
through which others express themselves to be understood. A relationship where there isn’t any
communication dies a slow death. This will result in the destruction of that which
could have been but was never given a chance.
Funny
enough there is always something seeking the attention of people in a
relationship be it intimate, businesswise or any other. When we fail to connect
with those we have dealings with, something of insignificance will crave and
subsequently win our attention. (Click here
and tweet this). Whatever you feed on so much becomes the god you worship. My
line of work has opened my eyes to a lot of the failures people have in
intimate, business or any other aspect of human relationships. The greatest
secret to any successful relationship is through the free expression of thoughts,
ideas, fears, anxiety and vision clearly. (Click here and tweet this). I see this as
communication!
Question: What does communication in a relationship mean to you?
Kindly leave your comments on the blog.
Yours In His Service
Joe Akuoko II