Appraisal,
a word that is commonly heard and exercised in cooperate environments and in
businesses but not really in relationships. Appraisal simply means to assess your
progress over a period of time and come out with the modalities needed to enhance the your future doings.
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Without
the “knowledge” of your past progress, planning for the future wouldn’t be all
that smooth. (Copy and tweet). We build
in the future based on the foundations of the past. It’s said he who forgets their past is bound
to repeat the mistakes thereof. Relationships likewise need appraisal! I see
relationship as a seed that is planted by two people who needs to tend it together. When one person fails to do their bit, chaos ensues. (Copy and tweet).
It is
said that what most "new lovers" use to do when they first met is
stopped or totally forgotten once they settle in the relationship. (Copy and tweet). The cinema, picnic, walking hand in hand, long
chats on the phones etc are sent into oblivion. They easily forget it was what they
used to do that caused the love they are experiencing to blossom. Once we begin
to take things for granted in the relationship, we lose the essence and the
value of what we have. (Copy and tweet).
The
challenge of our times demands that anyone desiring to keep their relationship should
endeavour to constantly appraise. (Copy and tweet).
It’s only by doing so that you get to know what is really working and what isn’t.
What might have worked earlier on in the relationship might have lost its
essence. Appraisal helps stops you from committing the mistakes that will kill
off your desire for each other. (Copy and tweet).
She
used to like flowers back then yet as the relationship progresses, you should be
able to discern whether if the “flower
trick” works or not. The fact that the
gentleman used to like a particular food or music doesn’t mean he does anymore. (Copy
and tweet). There has got to be a common
platform for a discussion on how to keep the blossom in the relationship by carefully
understanding the evolutionary needs of each person. (Copy and tweet).
Love
is a meal served over the ages not something that happens instantly. In order
to enjoy the meal, be prepared to understand the ingredients that were
carefully chosen to cook it. (Copy and tweet).
The hustle and bustle of our times means
many never look carefully anymore at the man or woman they professed to love. The
times they are changing and so is the one in the relationship with you . With this change comes the demand to
constantly assess yourselves. (Copy and tweet).
Can
it be said without appraisal, you will soon forget who the person you are with is?
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woman who you used to love a few years or months down the line. Do away
with everything including the good, the bad and the ugly and begin appraising! Trust me, the changes will bring a turnaround
in your relationship. Selah!
Here is a simple
3 minutes step to help you :-
A.
Assess where you are
currently in the relationship.
B.
Be honest with what
is working and what isn’t
C.
Map out a strategy
on how to deal with what isn’t working
D.
Accept the changes
that have occurred
Talk About It -
A. Why do you think
people don’t do appraisal in their relationships?
Yours
Joe Akuoko II
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