#My10CommandmentsOfRelationships ~ (10) PEOPLE MATTER!!

The pursuit of vision is daunting and risky. Often here and often there but sometimes never around! (Click here and tweet this). This excruciating aspect involved in the pursuit of one’s vision ought to alert us to this- never treat the people we are in a relationship with like the vision we are pursuing.  A critical look at this scripture and there is a semblance of what my 10^th commandment is all about- what profits a man if he gains the whole world and loses his soul.

There is the tendency for you to sacrifice the other person in the pursuit of your vision. (Click here and tweet this). When wisdom isn’t attached to your passion, you will end up gaining the whole world but losing the most important aspect of life- people. When a person becomes so detached from the realities of this life, it becomes easy to forget people truly matter.  You need people in order for your vision to have significance. (Click here and tweet this). Without people life will be meaningless!

A survey conduct on patients who were dying proved that everyone needs “people”. They were asked what their last wishes were and many said “they wish they had spent a lot of time with their friends and family”. Unfortunately the insatiable desire to be successful at all cost stopped them from doing so. Many get so caught up with the vistas of the proceeds out of their vision and easily forget human beings matter. (Click here and tweet this). John C Maxwell says “people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”. You can have it all but at the end of the day but what really matters will be the lives you impacted not only with the proceeds of your vision but also with presence.

At the end of the day, people will always be around but everything you gain could be lost in the “fires” of life. Your relationship with people determines how successful or unsuccessful you will become. Every person you come across has something valuable to contribute to your upward mobility in life. If you position yourself strategically with the right kind of people, success will never elude you. (Click here and tweet this). Jesus though God, needed his PEOPLE (disciples) to function on earth. No one wins in isolation. You could be the world’s most gifted person but without the contribution of others, you will struggle to make it. Team up with the right kind of people and watch your relationship blossom. No great individual has broken this 10^th commandment- understanding that people matter now and will always do in the near future. (Click here and tweet this).

I intentionally listed “people matter” as my 10^th commandment when it comes to relationships. Everything in life hinges on human beings and your ability to relate to them will determine how successful you can become. Finally John C Maxwell says “use things to get people: don’t use people to get things”. Don’t get to the crucible of your life before you wished you had made sure that PEOPLE MATTER to you. (Click here and tweet this). Go and practise these 10 commandments and watch your relationships improve in all things pertaining to your life.

Question: What are you doing to show that people matter to you? Kindly leave your comments on the blog.

Yours In His Service

Joe Akuoko II

“YOU” Series ~HOW DO YOU DEFINE “YOU”

"Cogito Ergo sum": I think therefore I am” - Rene Descartes

Success or failure begins with the “individual”. Nothing will ever happen without your involvement. (Click here and tweet this). We have been conditioned by society to relate to others better than we have been thought to do for ourselves. We find it easy being nice or going the extra mile for others. How many truly do so much for themselves? For me, the true value of a person is discovered when they take time to understand themselves. It’s through this that they can muster courage to face the challenges and hardships of tomorrow. We all hate losing but yet at the same time love winning- it starts with you.

The journey to being your best begins with “you". Patience is the hall mark as you embark on this journey. The sport of Angling to me seems daunting. Most of the time the angler has to wait for several hours before the fish bites the bait. Deep within the Angler is the desire to catch fish no matter how long it takes or how smart the animal might prove to be. Eventually, the one who dares wait gets the results. Providence often rejects us when we fail to maximise all the gifts and opportunities we have been blessed with. (Click here and tweet this)

Finding ones’ own path in life and being guided by divine principles produces inner peace. (Click here and tweet this) What worked for someone wouldn’t necessarily work for you. There is so much respect in being a pioneer! When faced with doubt and uncertainty about “you”, never forget the work of artistry that went into creating “you”. To define you carries with it so much potency that if the average individual will spend time and pay the price, he will be astonished. Many spend their lives worshipping others for their ingenuity yet fail to make scratch or make use of their opportunities.

There seem to be a deep desire to win when raised in scarcity. Personally being raised with not so enough instilled in me the desire to define me and subsequently move ahead to win. I believe this is what has informed my desire to see my friends, congregation, and anyone I come across in this life win. It’s even more heart wrenching when you knew you could have won but never yielded when the opportunity arose. (Click here and tweet). My mother made sure I understood that anytime something holds you bound, you will never experience the fullness of what you could have become.

I am great not because a person conferred it on me, but because I am learning to understand who I am. (Click here and tweet this). You are truly great when you understand yourself! The chaos we have in our world is due to people doing the wrong things in the wrong places at the wrong time with the wrong attitudes.

QUESTION: Who are you? How do you define you?

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Yours In His Service

Joe Akuoko II                     

"3Pees"Of Life ~ PRESERVATION!!

Yeah though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death….

                                             

When God has invested greatness in you, the challenges of life will come against you. The foremost means by which God secures you is to “PRESERVE” you until the appointed time.  I see Preservation as the period in a person’s life where God shields you from the overtness of your gift or calling. (Click here and tweet this). It is the silent yet the most beneficial period in a person’s life. He does this to prevent the early death of a vision, dream or a purpose. 

When you lack understanding of God's plan for your life, immaturity about issues at hand is the first by-product. (Click here and tweet this). As a result, many lose the desire and tenacity to pursue the best that life brings.  David was sent to the desert with the few sheep though the youngest of Jesse’s children. Because he had been destined for something greater, he was left in the desert as if no one cared. It was God’s decoy; a way to preserve his life. God and the desert eventually became his teachers. The skills he learnt from the desert became invaluable in his success as a King.

The challenges of life are sometimes daunting and demanding. I don’t know about you, but I sometimes question if God is truly with me. (Click here and tweet this). The negatives we encounter in life are not all meant to kill you I can emphatically say by now. After being around a few years and walking with God, I see it sometimes as God’s own way of PRESERVING you. Sadly many of us give up even before the preservation period ends. As a little boy, God took upon Himself to preserve Jesus from harm’s way. He commanded them to take Jesus to Egypt until the death of Herod. At twelve years He challenged the teachers of the law which was a premature launching of His ministry yet God used His parents to PRESERVE him until he was ready to launch him out.

If you allow God to preserve you, you will certainly be secured. On a personal basis, the preservation period I am experiencing has afforded me the privilege of ministering to my talents, skills, abilities and other areas of studies. I am quite careful not to waste so much time with the dogs and swine of this life. God’s preservation is the best times for anyone who believes in achieving their destiny. The whole purpose of preservation is to create  confidence in the Lord alone in order not to be afraid of what is waiting for you outside. (Click here and tweet this).

Questions: What does preservation mean to you? Have you experienced any period of preservation in your life before? Have you questioned God Sometimes?

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Yours In His Service

Joe Akuoko II

#My10CommandmentsOfRelationships~ (3) GO FOR WHAT YOU NEED!!

Go for what you NEED as opposed to what you WANT! Lay your cards well in life and lay it plain on the table: men will respect your demands. (Click here to tweet this) There is something about those who are bold enough to demand exactly what they need.  In simplicity, wants are things you can do without whilst needs are things you cannot do without. We exert so much effort and money on that which doesn’t give satisfaction at the expense of that which does.

The human being in our times believes in the “instantomatics” thus our foremost desires are geared towards the self.  As a leader, I have seen too many lives destroyed because of the lack of a resolve to go for what is needed. The bible is very succinct when it comes to asking from God; my God shall supply all your NEED according to His riches in glory. Pursuing a need in life brings fulfilment. The biography of the late Steve Jobs speaks of someone who understood this argument I am raising. He stood for one thing- the need for excellence. Flip through the pages and you will be shocked at the length he will go to achieve the excellence he so desires.  If you go for what you want at the expense of need, you will be bitter and confused for the rest of your live. (Click here and tweet this).

Many I have come across find it daunting paying the price required for the fulfilment of their need. In order to be fulfilled in a relationship, questions are meant to be asked before there is an agreement.  Hard questions like why do I need that person? Why do I need that job? Does it have what it takes to bring the best out of me? These should be the benchmarks for everyone desiring to relate to someone, a vision or an environment. Interestingly, when you pursue what you need, something within tells you that you are fighting a worthy course. (Click here and tweet this). You don’t have to bow to the pressure of others who find satisfaction in mediocrity to settle for less.

If deep within the recesses of your Spirit excellence abounds, go for it. Name your price, see your prize and learn to work for. (Click here and tweet this).Weak souls often settle for that which is far below their potential and never live life to its best. Many who go for wants might seem to be winning in the immediate only to be blown away like the chaff by the winds of life. Others, who choose to pursue their need and suffer the buffeting of negative forces, will win eventually.

I am an avid reader of biographies and something is very consistent in the lives I read of. Almost every great achiever from the onset knew what they NEEDED and did not mince words in achieving it. Make no mistake, finding your need is tasking because human beings naturally gyrate towards wants. (Click here and tweet this). It will take a painstaking process to really identify your need and when you do, make sure you utilise it to your benefit. Your life is in the capsule of your need and once you find it, the real you will be free to exhibit your potential.  May God help you find what you really NEED and when you do, go for it with everything in you.

Questions: what do you NEED not WANT in a relationship? Have you made the mistake of going for a WANT not a NEED? Kindly leave your comment on the blog.

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Yours In His Service

JOSEPH AKUOKO II